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Apocalypse, Nah: Why Dating Will Survive Tinder

Is Tinder to blame for the Dating Apocalypse? Alexa Day’s take on the Vanity Fair article and the brouhaha it ignited. Got thoughts?

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In MY day, we swiped one of these babies! And we LIKED it! (This image was made by Loadmaster (David R. Tribble).) In MY day, we swiped one of these babies! And we LIKED it!
(This image was made by Loadmaster (David R. Tribble).)

By Alexa Day

I underwent a brief experiment with Tinder some time ago as research for a presentation I made at a Girls’ Night Out event. I’d never been on Tinder before, although I had a decent idea what to expect, and although nothing truly unpleasant happened (by which I mean that I received neither dick pic nor vulgar message), I don’t feel the need to return to Tinder. I don’t have any strong feelings for or against it, I suppose. It just is.

I am aware of confusion regarding the actual purpose of Tinder, though. I don’t understand how it can be confusing. It uses your Facebook profile to put you into the pool of users active at the same time in the same area, and then…

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This Is How It Starts: Kate Breslin’s For Such A Time

My dear friend and author, Alexa Day posted an insightful blog about the controversy over the RWA Rita’s Finalist, FOR SUCH A TIME. The RWA has defended the situation citing a determination to insure no censorship in the RITA’S, and I applaud their position. What I don’t applaud is the fact that the JUDGES did not weed it out themselves. What does this say about the Judges, published romance authors? I shudder to think. What do YOU think?

Lady Smut

Are we really looking at the right thing? Are we really seeing the problem?

By Alexa Day

I am, speaking very generally, encouraged by what Romance Writers of America is trying to do with regard to diversity within our genre.

I’ve checked out the Storify from one of the diversity-related panels at this year’s National Conference (and you should, too). I downloaded the handout from the excellent authors at the panel on writing multicultural romances. And I would be doing you a disservice not to mention that Beverly Jenkins was on NPR last week. Her reference to the Borg from Star Trek echoes a common complaint I have about black historical romance, both in print and in other popular entertainment. That’s not an RWA thing, but I want to mention it anyway.

With all this forward motion, then, it is discouraging to hear about For Such a Time by Kate Breslin.
In case you haven’t heard about this…

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I’m prepping to place my bet on ACES DOWN

Writing a novel takes a L-O-N-G time.

Getting it sold takes however long it takes.

Editing it takes less time, but seems longer.

Finally, you wait for your publisher to slip you into the production stream and then BAM!

You’ve got a Release Date and you’re off to the publicity races!

My latest entrant in that race is ACES DOWN and I’m in the line-up for launch on July 8th.

It’s a hot time at Aces Down when a witch and a shapeshifter square off against a vengeful ghost.


My newest Paranormal Romance will be available through my favorite publisher, The Wild Rose Press, as well as through Barnes & Noble and Amazon.

Stay tuned for more celebratory posts and some prize-winning opportunities.

I wish you The World

My final thoughts over at the Tea & Strumpets blog. We’re shutting down the group blog, but staying on fb, so don’t think you’re getting away from us that easily.

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Avatar_Square_150x15By Denise Golinowski

Myth Perceptions

Like the Fool in the Tarot, we Strumpets have traveled a long and winding roll during our time on this blog. Now, we’ve reached the end of our journey and stand on the precipice of the next new thing.

The World card is, for me, a card about that moment between. As the adage goes, when one door closes, another opens. This card represents that moment, that space–the antechamber. In this space, with the old path closing or closed behind you and the new yet to be discovered or begun, you have the opportunity, nay, the obligation to review what brought you here and the tools you’ve gained that will carry you forward into the next cycle.

We are always learning, evolving, gaining skills and insights and these are the gifts we bring to the table when starting something anew. Sometimes we can’t see where…

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Just hanging around – or not

Wanted to give a shout-out today to a handy little device that I just could not live without. The purse hanger!

There is NOTHING more irritating to a lady than settling into a seat at a restaurant and having no place to put her purse. If it’s a shoulder bag, you can sometimes hook it around the back of the chair, but a rounded chairback or sitting in a booth can put the kibosh on that idea. No matter how nice the restaurant, the condition of the floor makes putting your handbag on the floor a germaphobe’s nightmare. Balancing it on your shoes is impractical and your lap is not a viable option either. Using an available empty chair at the table or space on the booth seat works if there’s room.

And right here, let me applaud the bars that have thoughtfully installed hooks under the counter, but they are sadly few and far in between.

So, it was with pure delight that I discovered the purse hanger. I don’t know when they were developed, but I discovered them quite by accident. A discount bin at the local Books A Million to be specific. I immediately bought them for myself and as gifts. One of those lovely little gadgets that make life so much easier.

Here’s a fervent thank you to the designer of the purse hanger!

20150423_08022220150423_080302Here are a few shots of my most treasured hanger – with the so appropriate red wine glass design. One action shot and then how the little pouch on my fav purse is the perfect storage spot. Never gets lost in the bottom of the bag this way.

Do you have one of these lovelies? How did you find out about them? Feel free to share pics.

Random thoughts-got any to spare?

Just popping in to spend a little quality time with my blog. I know it gets kinda lonely out here and wanted to give it a little random love.

box-312388_640Life update – prepping for move to new home – mucho excited, maybe a bit more scared. Even though I’ve done it many times, there’s always that little voice asking am I doing everything necessary? Am I doing it all correctly? Have I missed anything? DH is optimistically planning to empty four FULL Smartboxes–By Himself–in 48 hours. He’s just moving it all from box to garage, but honestly, I think he’s crazy. And he’s scheduled it when I’m not available to help. Yeah, how many kinds of crazy is he? Well, that’s a matter for another post. But ya’ gotta love an optimistic man!

font-705667_640Writing update – cobbling A Matter of Time together. Using components of early incarnation (Tarnished Goods) to fill in gaps of newest version. New title – new plotline – same characters – similar issues – different crises. I feel it’s a true example of the whole being better than the sum of its parts. At the same time, I’m trying to do a short story romance. Yeah, maybe my DH is not the only crazy one in this households, eh?

So, since misery loves company, what’s going on in your life? Do Tell!

Major/Minor – Military Ranks? Musical Keys?

Talking about the Tarot’s Major Arcana over at Tea N Strumpets blog

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f2be0-avatar_square_150x15by Denise Golinowski

Welcome to Myth Perceptions!

So, Major/Minor? Here, I talking Tarot terminology, and more specifically, the two “halves” of the Tarot deck. Though half may be a misnomer because the Major Arcana has 22 cards and the Minor Arcana has 56. However, they are the two parts of the deck, so tomayto, tomahto. And this month, I’m going to focus on the Major Arcana.

When looking at that 78 card deck, 22 cards of the Major Arcana are easy to separate out because each card has a specific title – The Fool, The Magician, The Lovers, Death – to name a few.

4TarotThese cards are usually viewed as carrying more esoteric or karmic resonance than the Minor Arcana. Frequently, the Major Arcana is also described as the Fool’s Journey, or the soul’s evolutionary cycle, with the cards within it represent major events in the Querent’s life. When multiple…

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My Time at MyTime Womens Show

Today was a dreary, cold day outside, but inside the Hampton Convention Center, things were quite the opposite. The Tea & Strumpets were back at the MyTimes Womens Show and the booth was hopping. So many lovely ladies stopped by to say hello, browse our books, and share their thoughts about reading. I never really left the booth, but from the sounds of it, there were some exciting presentations as well as a widely diverse range of vendors.

My sister Strumpets were in full swing, chatting, laughing, and smiling.


And I got to wear my new hat.MTWS_2015_2

A lovely day and an event I plan to attend again.

Another Success – James River Writers Conference #JRW14

#JRW14 is in the books and an unqualified success based on the comments overheard throughout the weekend. Quality panels, intriguing topics, pleasant venue, and professional management by both conference and hotel staff. I’ve come to expect nothing less from the James River Writers and am delighted to see the event evolve every year.

Full House at First Pages

Full House at First Pages

However, the strongest piece of the conference experience is interacting with other writers. There’s something magical and empowering in the question: What do you write? Being in a place where the response is both tendered and received without hesitation or fear of judgment is liberating. We speak the same language. We share the same experience. Differences in genre are not obstacles, but opportunities. Opportunities to make connections, network.

I won’t attempt a major recap, but I wanted to throw out some fun tidbits I scribbled in my notebook. Here’s a few soundbites from the conference:

Banish the banal from your beginnings.

Net Galley, Scribd, Blockbuster, Better than Free, Terrible Minds

A pitch is like a poem where every word counts

Literary citizen

Decide what are your cheese cubes – what you have to offer to attract attention

Delightfully imperfect – description of Jim Henson by Brian Jay Jones and something worth aspiring to be

Oh, the list goes on and on, but I’m too tired to decipher my scrawl. Every experience absorbed and now time to digest.

Lastly, my deepest thanks and proudest moment was receiving the Emyl Jenkins award. I couldn’t be prouder nor feel more humble.

Write on!

Is it raining where you are?

I love Writing Prompts and Writers Write on facebook puts out some nice ones. This is one of their recent irresistible prompts:

The smell of rain on dry earth always made her think of…


The smell of rain on dry earth always made her think of the family garden. A day of rain was a godsend–both a blessing for the crop and a reprieve from grubbing between the rows. Hours of toil beneath an often pitiless sun to try and eke out a salable crop. Their roadside stand didn’t earn enough to pay all the bills, but the extra cash was the difference between cardboard linings or new shoes for school.

How about you? Where does this take you?

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